Trying to work out what type of meditation my friend is doing

Before you say "just ask her" hear me out.

A little while ago she opened up about the fact she had been doing meditation and would experience things normally associated with drug use through her meditation practice. She mentioned that in the past she had tried to talk to people about it but they usually shrugged it off as mental health issues – so it was a big deal for her to open up about it to me. They made it clear that they didn't want to tell me too much about it because she didn't want to be responsible for possibly letting bad energy in, which could be hard to let go of.

Long story short. I want to know what it is. I don't know if I want to dive right into it but I want to better understand its process and goal so I can see if it is something I might want to dive deeper into. Importantly I wholeheartedly sincerely believe my friend with what she told me.

Things she said that might help identify it:

  • lots of comments about seeing what reality really is, and that we are living in a fiction

  • lots of comments that meditation provided guidance and showed him where she was meant to be and when. Lots of stories that might be treated as being coincidental by many people provided reasons for her belief that what she was experiencing was real

  • comments that meditation was like what she had heard many drug trips described as being – ability to see higher purpose, the truth, to be guided by God (god was the word used but I'm not certain it wasn't God in a generic sense or a particular God).

  • they said they could literally lie down and close their eyes and – if they were needing guidance for something they could make this meditative state happen and find the answers. Could even make it happen in a busy room if they needed to but it would be harder.

  • said it wasn't transcendental or mindfulness – different to these

  • said I probably would have heard of it

  • did a bit of "prayer" hand gesture while talking about it – though unclear if this was an intentional thing or part of the practice.

Does anyone have any thoughts. I ask because of genuine interest. I've had a lot of rough things go on in my life recently and if what she does would help me I would love to dip my toes in a little bit and see.

Want to get this off my chest. Seeing if meditation can help

So ever since I've started college, I became interested in entrepreneurship. During my sophomore year I started freelancing, and really got into building a brand and business. So I spend my entire sophomore and junior year just being independent to make this into a career. I'm satisfied being alone, and I don't have too many friends with the same passions.

So one day I decide to take a day off, and go clubbing with some friends. In the club I go dancing with this girl, but I guess I danced weird so people started recording me, and laughing. I ignored it, then this same guy harasses me by tapping my shoulder and pushing me, but I'm pretty drunk so I literally can't find the guy. He does it again, but security kicks him out. Anyways, I come out to see a group of 20 people laughing at me. From then on, my anxiety kicked in, I become paranoid everywhere I go. It's affected my business, my relationships with my friends, girlfriend, parents, and roommates. I have a guard everywhere I go now, I can't trust people, and I give off bad impressions making others think that I have a stoic attitude. From then on, It's difficult to smile, and be vulnerable to others.

At some points, I can withstand it, and it's made me stronger. I'm able to fight if people were to say it independently. But majority of the times, it's just activities that others are doing that I'm assuming are attempting to hurt me. So these are merely just thoughts! But there's days where these thoughts cloud my head, and I just can't think straight. I've come to my breaking point where I need to improve myself internally if I want my relationships to improve and my business too.

Sometimes when I'm doing these activities, my guard just goes up, and my body tenses up and goes into fight mode: Someone taking a selfie, laughing at restaurants, talking at movie theaters, large gatherings. I almost feel distant and out of the ordinary everywhere I go.

I'm going to begin with daily 10-min morning meditations right when I get up. Will be focusing on the timing of my inhale and exhale, and we'll see where it goes.

Also, I'd love to hear your story. I know there's others in worse scenarios than me, and I'd like to hear it.

What are you doing when you meditate?

Since I started, I've kind of just been sitting at my desk and thinking about my emotions or counting my breaths.

I haven't been doing it every day because sometimes I forget but it's been a week or two. I feel like I'm less impulsive when it comes to my irritability.

Just wondering what other people are doing and if there's a "right" way to do it.

I keep getting thrown off from mindfulness meditation because I’m confused about what exact thing I’m supposed to be mindful of

Sometimes I sit down and I try to focus on my breathing, but then I don’t know which part of the breathing to focus on. Do I focus on my chest or my nostrils or the whole process? I also sometimes focus on just sounds. Is that wrong? If I have an itch do I just let it stay itchy or do I scratch it and go back to meditating. I feel like I’m not even meditating at all because I don’t actually know exactly how to do it.

“Let your thoughts happen and allow them to pass and bring your focus back to your breath.” Is there anything more specific than “focus on your breath”? I actually am realizing that I don’t even know what that means or how to do it all

Meditation at the Dentist

I just went to the dentist for the first time in way too long. Normally, it's long and uncomfortable to be sitting there doing nothing while strangers poke around in my mouth. This time, I sort of accidentally started meditating and before I knew it, it was over. I didn't think I would be able to because I can get distracted easily during meditation but I was so relaxed the whole time. Has anyone else tried meditating while at the dentist?

Offering to create a vocal script for you

Hi there 🙂

i've been told that my voice is very deep and relaxing and thought it would be fitting for recording scripted meditations. If you would like to have a script vocalized and recorded, i'd be happy to record it for you, free of charge. I can, of couse, also send a small sample of my voice so you could consider.

Drop me a line if you are interested 🙂

Ben.

Any no-nonsense, no-woo woo, scientific and logical guide to meditation and mindfulness?

Are there any good books written on meditation and mindfulness from a scientific no-nonsense perspective?

I'm started reading Mindfulness in Plain English by Gunaratana‎ seeing it being recommend in some threads on here and I am highly disappointed in this book. The book is poorly written firstly. Second, while the book doesn't talk about meditation from a religious perspective, which would be worse, the underlining theme of the book is chastising things that a man with a drive for life would do or enjoy. While the book outright doesn't mention it but the tone is that building things, earning money, hard work, sex and lust, greed, passion all are supposedly bad because they comes from a superficial level of the ego and the pleasure from them is temporary.

I am looking to read a book on meditation which doesn't put down these things. Something that just talks about meditation from a scientific and logical point of view and lets me decide what to do with the knowledge and does not turn into a fucking art of living book. Not some book which tries killing the drive for life just because the pleasure from few things is temporary and has the whole vegan buddhist living on a mountain vibe to it.

I'm looking for something like 10% Happier by Dan Harris where the author examines meditation from a skeptical and rational point of view. A book written by a normal driven guy with a strong understanding of logic, reality and skepticism. I've already added Waking Up by Sam Harris to my list as well as Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics by Dan Harris himself. Is there something more along those lines but written by someone having even more of an authority in this field?

Thank you